In order to be loved by someone else you need first of all to love yourself.  We are brought up to believe that self love is wrong somehow.  We are told that loving ourselves is ‘vain’ and ‘arrogant’ and therefore ‘bad’.  We might then find it difficult to accept praise from our peers because we believe that doing so makes us ‘appear’ self important.  In order to give love to another you need first and foremost to give that love to yourself.  After all if you do not love yourself then how can you experience loving another?  Relationships can be a difficult part of life for people for these very reasons.  People who do not love themselves then feel that they are not worthy somehow of receiving love thus they don’t believe within themselves that they ‘deserve’ love.  Consequently they may inadvertently sabotage their relationships thus fulfilling their belief that somehow they are ‘not good enough’ and ‘no-one wants/loves them’. 

If this is all too familiar to you and to your relationships then take time out of your busy schedule to be with yourself.  Take time to simply be.  When you get to really know yourself and love your self then you will be truly able to sustain a loving relationship, you will be able to give and receive the love without any feelings of inadequacy, and without that innate subconscious urge to sabotage it!

Ultimately in order to attract positive relationships into your life you have to first believe both in yourself and in your ability to sustain a loving an intimate relationship.  Repeat positive affirmations to yourself regulary and repeatedly on a daily basis and you will then come to believe what you are saying. When you believe, then what you believe will be so - for that is the law of the universe.